Day of confessions

[Gottabringmeback]

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Owning up to what you did and letting others know, even just on a message board shows you see what you did wrong and want to correct it. I understand what you mean but really, you are only doing this for you and only your actions affect it. Lots of things can go wrong in life and make you reach for comfortable things but it's not the action, but reaction that counts. I also use to do the same as you and feel, well, if noane sees me it must not really count. Everytime I am tempted, which is alot (lots of things in the house that others eat) I remind myself how much it'll stall me getting where I want to be. It's not worth it. I never have been happier and lost so many years being like this. Keep up the work and don't let anyone, anything slow you down!

[LageNomAi]

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My confession: yesterday I met up with friends and had a gin and tonic, and I have no doubt the tonic was full of sugar. I didn't even bother asking the bartender if he had sugar-free tonic back there. That drink tasted almost intolerably sweet to me, but boy did I enjoy it, LOL. Back on track today...

[goin2befit]

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Sherikie~ Great Job going strong... you'll be there before you know it

Jeanettee~ Spinning with joy... I'm so proud that you are giving it your best this time, just keep reminding yourself of how you got off plan last time and try to imagine an alternative to it this time.

Gottabringmeback~ Thanks for your kind words and words of wisdom, you are so right in saying that "you are only doing this for you and only your actions affect it". I guess this is something I have fought for for many years is wanting it for my family, to have a husband (but got him anyways without loosing the weight, we married at my heaviest at that time 416), to have kids (had 2 of those anyways as well, delivered both weighing above 350), but to feel I really, really wanted it... I don't think I honestly ever did b/c I for sure wanted my cupcakes and icecream (emotional smoothers) way more then learning how to soothe myself and being healthy and yes more desirable and beautiful.

LageNomAi~ Glad you enjoyed your drink and yes next time do ask, if you can enjoy and not go off by so much it is better b/c it is preparing you for later on... it is good that you are able to get back on today and go strong again b/c you are doing great... and sometimes it only takes that once "cheat" to knock us off for a while not b/c we feel bad about it (I see you didn't b/c you clearly stated you enjoyed it) but b/c it will shift our blood sugar and other things in the body and then we are fighting again the next few days. So please for your own sake keep that in mind.

For me, 3 days on plan.. and yesterday was so hard b/c I was hungry and picked up DH and DD from the YMCA and then we went by McDonalds... Now I wasn't in the mood for no salad or something and they only got French Fries and Chocolate Milk Shake (and what was so hard was on the way to drop them at the YMCA I was thinking about that same thing and telling myself I don't need it, it isn't worth it, ect and boom there I am at the drive thru, but thankfully resisted and proud of myself for that)

And the scale was down to 363.6 this am!!!!

[sham]

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As you have acknowledged the problem and realise something must be done you are taking the first step to help yourself.You have alot of weight to lose but it can surely be done as you may have seen others at the diet proving you just need to be focused on your goals start with many mini goals treat yourself to a treat like getting your nails done,new shoes,new lipstick just something to make it interesting as you meet your mini goals.You surely will do well and if you do a clean induction you should see huge loss fingers crossed for you.Please work on your willpower if you want you can do anything you must believe in yourself and that will give you the confidence to keep going.I really hope you do well keep us posted on your progress.

[Lurch]

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Goingtobefit.

I like the name, you will achieve more than you ever imagined.

You must not focus on the negative. Even though you only lose 30 lbs, you restricted carbs and lost weight. What will happen when you restrict more carbs? Do not ask yourself Why can't I do this the mind will find a million reason as to why you fail. You must ask your brain, how can I do this better, how can I make this more enjoyable, How can I do that. The mind loves to work.

It is ok to cheat, but you must regulate.

Lets say you have the carbs, It was 22 Hours between your carb meals.

Next time I ask that you make it 24 Hours between your carb meals. Baby steps are the way to Life Long success. They 25 or 26 hours. You will be proud of your results. Also you carbs must be limited to only 1 hour of that day. 1 HOUR.

These small steps will let you realize that "HEY I CAN DO THIS". Every time you achieve a new success, you know it is possible for you and you can take it a little further next time.

I never understood why people that smoke 2 packs a day think they can just go cold turkey? They did not just start with 2 packs a day did they?

If you cut back a little every day. 1 cigarette every day in 40 days they have kicked they habit.

It is the same with weight loss. You need to truly believe you can do this. Once you believe it than the success will follow.

Faith to believe. Do we not have Highschool track runners today blwoing away world record times of 15 years ago? The average runner is better than a man of 30 years ago. We have seen it done before and now we know it can be done. So it is not a problem.

The ONLY THING EVER limiting you is yourself. I know you will come out on top.

Focus on your success not failures. This is not positie thinking. Positive thinking is BS and is not enough. This is small daily actions that will snowball in massive successfull action.

HOLD YOU HEAD HIGH

[mitzimarie]

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It is ok to cheat, but you must regulate.

Lets say you have the carbs, It was 22 Hours between your carb meals.

Next time I ask that you make it 24 Hours between your carb meals. Baby steps are the way to Life Long success. They 25 or 26 hours. You will be proud of your results. Also you carbs must be limited to only 1 hour of that day. 1 HOUR.

I just need to make it clear to newbies that this approach is NOT Atkins... it is Lurchkins.

I never understood why people that smoke 2 packs a day think they can just go cold turkey? They did not just start with 2 packs a day did they?

If you cut back a little every day. 1 cigarette every day in 40 days they have kicked they habit.

It is the same with weight loss.

Everyone is different... I smoked nearly 2 packs of cigs a day for 16 years. Cold turkey is the only approach that worked for me. I haven't smoked since 12/9/93. Yes, there are those who need to do the "taper off" method for smoking... that would never work for me.

Same with cheating... I know of one person in particular, who can allow herself a "fun day" with eating every 3 weeks or so... that does NOT work for me. Tried it too many times, and been burned every time.

[ldyj]

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Same here, Mitzi, I quit smoking cold turkey almost 20 years ago, Oh, how well I remember that time! By the 3rd day I was pacing the floor and cussing at myself and promised that I would NEVER let anything control my life again like cigarettes!

Then I found out I couldn't seem to control my weight. I'm sure there are lots of medical/scientific reasons, it wasn't for lack of trying. I remember when I started the climb upward and I was about 30 lbs, overweight, doing the '72 version of Atkins - I could really keep those carbs low - and going to the gym 5 times a week (my goal was to walk 150 miles in a month) and I didn't lose a pound! Nothing!! Of course I'm sure I wasn't doing Atkins correctly as I understand the program today, I mean, zero carbs!! It was when my doctor put me on estrogen and I immediately gained yet another 15 lbs. that I began to understand that my hormones were now controlling me! Although I immediately changed to bio-identical hormones, the 15 lbs. gain stayed! Now instead of being 30 lbs. over, I was 45 over! It was a very discouraging time in my life, weight wise.

But now those days are in the past. I don't smoke, I no longer have to take estrogen in any form, I still go to the gym and I'm doing Atkins and seeing results, because, this time, I'm doing Atkins as written!

[not2late]

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It is ok to cheat, but you must regulate.

I think if it was as easy as this, we wouldn't have a "Second Time Around Forum"

In addition to getting back on track, it is vital to figure out what caused the derailment in the first place. For example, if your car breaks down in the middle of the highway, you bring it to the mechanic who figures out why it stopped. The mechanic, if he/she is worth their fees, won't just say "It's low on gas" without checking the gas tank and the gas gauge. If it really did breakdown because the gas was on empty, then you make a plan to prevent it from running out of gas, like "check the gas gauge every time you take the car out and fill it up". You do preventative measures!

Same thing should apply to your Atkins. You fell off the diet because you went out to dinner with your friends. So sit down and figure out why and what you can do when that situation presents itself again. Make plans. Take preventive measures. That will help you stay on track. If you don't, then you'll probably end up restarting and restarting and restarting Atkins over and over and over again.

[Lurch]

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[QUOTE=mitzimarie;1087108]I just need to make it clear to newbies that this approach is NOT Atkins... it is Lurchkins.

Lurchkins, That is cute. And maybe true. I am offering advise for others. It is how I was able to start Atkins. I taped off the carbs. Hour by Hour. Actually I added another 3 hours every day between my carbs meals and it worked quite well. After all food is a drug for me.

It is Not Atkins you are right. But I do not believe that it is diet that is the problem. Being Overweight is the side effect of another problem. I am trying to teach skills that will help in MANY aspects of their life. The problem must be addresses that allowed you to be fat.

Your Anchors must change or you will always be in this battle. You must change your anchors.

I guess I will change my name to Lurchkins.

BTW good work you look great in your pictures.

[ldyj]

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I don't have much to confess today. It's my third day of clean induction, I'm in ketosis and I've lost the "water weight" from my fall into the carb mud! Guess no one else has anything to confess either today - and that's a good thing! But post anyway and let me know how you're doing!!

[goin2befit]

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Maybe we should just confess that we are doing great this time

I have now completed 4 days cheat free, 100 % introduction... and my weight this am is 362.8!!!! Off to another great day...

[Georgiana]

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Maybe we should just confess that we are doing great this time

I have now completed 4 days cheat free, 100 % introduction... and my weight this am is 362.8!!!! Off to another great day...

Good for you, Amanda! Congrats for the new lowest weight.

[ldyj]

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Yahoo, Amanda ! Good restart! Don't you just love the way the scale drops the first week on Atkins! But now, (sigh), it's time for the real weight loss to begin. But we will do it, we're a team! Go team!!

[lilblackdress]

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Lurch - your post was very well written and very true.

I had weak moment Saturday night and had some cold beers after working all day in the hot sun doing landscaping. But I am not going to dwell on it, just move on and keep making better choices.

I know that these things slow my weight loss down but at least I am making improvements to get it down. I will try each week to make it better than the week before.

Positive thinking (i know easier said than done).

Just saw your post Amanda - Congrats on the loss woohoo!!!

[Lindz]

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I confess that I started a week ago but I have not been drinking water....maybe 12oz per day, and I am lacking on the veggies. What I miss the most is snacking and dessert. Right now I am honestly craving a bowl of kraft mac and cheese and brownies (not mixed in the same bowl) I am doing all that I can to not pack the baby up in the car and go to the store. BUT I am going to try my hardest today to start my walking plan.