Look at you...Would you love you?

[ShannonM]

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Hon, I'm so sorry for what you have been dealing with. I absolutely ADORE your answer to his awful question of who would love you. It sounds like you're on a wonderful path and I wish you every success.

And every time you eat or drink something healthy instead of junk food, think of it as your sweet revenge.

[GRAPES]

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Wow...(((((Huggggs))))) You are inspirational. I let my failed marriage destroy me and I wasted so many years of my life in regret. You go girl and take that train you're on to success...I'm rooting for you all the way.

[tracyc]

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omg summerdressgirl.. you could be me...i will be 31 in december, i am 5ft3, i was 254, im 229 now, im married with 3 kids.. your post brought tears to my eyes.. my husband doesnt say things like that to me though. I feel empathy for you and your children. but hand in there, remember that by eating yourself to death, you are going to leave those wonderful children with noone but a jackass to fend for them..you are worth it!!

this site will quickly become a lifeline of support if you let it. I've been doing induction for just under a week now, and i feel like these women have known me for years, because they have all went through the struggles that you and are are going through now with out weight

[Summerdressgirl]

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Thank you everybody for such wonderful compassion and kindness

[Eama]

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I lived through a 5-year marriage to a guy that sounds exactly like your husband. It's been 8 years since the divorce and I'm only now getting my life completely to a place where I experience happiness every single day.

My advice to you? Grab it now! Don't wait to go after your bliss. Grab hold to happiness and don't let go.

[meat]

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Summerdress what you need to do is very simple:

Get a divorce right NOW.

You will get child support, and alimony, and he will also have to cover all of your legal fees. Yes, this is honestly how it works.

You hold all the cards in this marriage as the mother of the kids, he has no choice but to support you financially.

You are wrecking your life and your kids life, whether you know or admit it to yourself, or not, by staying with someone abusive.

Forget pie in the sky fairy tales about being the 1 in a million successful business owners and looking like tyra banks as you sashay out of the courtroom before you can leave.

Why would you need to wait for any of that to leave him? GO NOW.

The sooner you get yourself, and CHILDREN out of that type of environment, the better.

[meow]

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My husband said something like that to me, many years ago. He apologized a dozen times, and I knew he meant it---the apology AND what he'd said. I did lose weight, and we are still married, but for weeks afterward, I wasn't sure if I was going to be a divorcee or a widow...
Don't let the bastards get you down!

[ShannonM]

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meat, are you the original poster's attorney? Because this:

You will get child support, and alimony, and he will also have to cover all of your legal fees. Yes, this is honestly how it works.

is not something you could possibly know unless as her counsel you were intimately acquainted with the emotional and financial aspects of her marriage. Many people receive very unpleasant surprises in divorce court.

[meat]

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sorry but my advice is still a lot more practical than the oprah winfrey "girl just keep love'n yourself" stick-your-head-in-the-sand-and-hope-for-the-best-i-cried-for-you BS that shes been getting in this thread.

[ShannonM]

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It's another option to consider, provided she consults with an attorney.

[kifl1981]

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I am so sorry to hear that such a horrible thing was said to you. I think all of us who are overweight have been there. Sometimes the comments aren't intended to hurt us, and sometimes they are. (As in your case.)

Just remember that his rudeness is HIS problem, NOT yours. No amount of weight is any excuse for a human being to act like an animal. I hope that you can work out your marriage, but if not, I wish you the best in your business endeavors.

I don't know what situation you're in financially, and I wouldn't dare ask, but a friend of mine is working a job at home with Premium Virtual Customer Service with Outsourced Customer Service from VIPdesk . She trained for just two weeks and then she started working making $14 an hour. Maybe that is something you could do just to build up some money for you and the kids until you can get your other business opportunity worked out. I wish you the best!