Youngest? Oldest? Middle Child of your Family?

[divaindubai]

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thank you jsj0305! It happened almost 16 years ago, kind of weird to think about how much time as gone by. We survived it though thank god. My parents are split up and divorced but they are both happier now and have found new partners, so that is good.

Life goes on, nothing else we can do about the past.

[ztachick]

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I was the only child, and yes im spoied, and am still a
''mamas girl''
lol

[sadie@136]

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(((((DIVA)))))
ia m very sorry to hear about the tragic incident..

[divaindubai]

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(((((DIVA)))))
ia m very sorry to hear about the tragic incident..

Its okay sis! Life is full of blessings and tragedies, Life is a test afterall, we are only on this Earth for one split second compared to eternity in the afterlife

I mean if I dwell on her death then that means I'm not getting on with my own life, and I know that is sometihng that she'd want me and my family to do, is keep on with our lives...

[jroche5998]

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Wow, I feel back bringing this thread back to topic (I can't imaging going through that Diva).

But I am an only child (adopted as well) and my wife says that I am the prime example of why NOT to have only one child. Which I have NO idea why she says that. LOL

[MotherOfGizmo]

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I have a triplet niece and 2 nephews, they have one younger sibling...theories?

[theredhead]

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I think my family would probably fit into your theory very well. I'm the middle, between two brothers. My older brother was somewhat rebellious and it took him a few years to grow up. (He's turned out great, thankfully!)

My younger brother was a sweet little dopey kid. My DH used to give him quarters to leave us alone when we were dating. He grew up to be very outgoing and generous. We're all clowns. We take after our silly mother that way.

As far as bonding goes, we always fought like cats and dogs. It was always the two older against the younger, the boys against the girl, or the two younger ones against the older. No wonder my Mom says she's crazy!

I have two daughters. Their personalities are very different, but both are very responsible and outgoing. They've never been rebellious (they're 21 & 17). I feel very fortunate.

[wannabethintoo]

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Wow! Same as me. 3 girls, I'm the middle one and my oldest sister died.

I was born the middle child out of 3 girls, and was the middle child up until the age of 17, then our oldest sister died.

Before my older sister died, her and my youngest (who was 5 1/2 years younger than me), would always stick together as sort of a team, eventhough my oldest sister and I grew up together (we were only 2 1/2 years apart). But having said that I was the one who was responsible during high school, etc, compared to both my sisters.

My older sister went off to university for the first 2 years, then the tragedy happened right after her second year. It affected our whole family tremendously for at least a period of 5 years. Now I feel my place in the family has shifted from being middle to the oldest.

[divaindubai]

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Wow! Same as me. 3 girls, I'm the middle one and my oldest sister died.

wow wannabe How long ago did your sister pass on her way?
It was so harsh at the time it happened, still remember Mom screaming on the couch when we found the news...the doctor had to come to give her a tranquilizer in the butt, to calm her down, she wsa pretty dopey even a day after the funeral (5 days later).... I'll never forget those moments.....

It was weird because I used to love how i had two sisters, and couldn't imagine having only one sister, because I liked having a "choice" sometimes on who to hang around with when we werejust int he house together (when we were kids of course).

I guess its still weird to talk about it eh, wannabe? I mean, life does go on, but there are times you still remember it, and can't believe that it happened.

My sister was a writer, and she accomplished a lot in her short life of 19 1/2. I'm even thijnking of getting her stuff published maybe one day. Her stuff is in cardboard boxes back in storage locker in B.C. with some of Dad's stuff because he has no room for it in his small place.

Interesting how we have this in common though....

[wannabethintoo]

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My sister died last year of a heart attack. She was only 48 years old. We had a very rough childhood after my father left and we never saw him again. We moved in with my grandparents who didn’t treat us very well and my mother suffers from chronic depression and never interfered with her mother. They hated my father and I guess took it out on us. The whole experience broke my sister’s spirit. She ended up having a mental breakdown at age 18 and never recovered from it. She smoked most of her life and was very obese. One day she was standing around in the kitchen and she just dropped to the floor and died immediately. The doctors thought she had diabetes and didn’t know about it.

[divaindubai]

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My sister died last year of a heart attack. She was only 48 years old. We had a very rough childhood after my father left and we never saw him again. We moved in with my grandparents who didn’t treat us very well and my mother suffers from chronic depression and never interfered with her mother. They hated my father and I guess took it out on us. The whole experience broke my sister’s spirit. She ended up having a mental breakdown at age 18 and never recovered from it. She smoked most of her life and was very obese. One day she was standing around in the kitchen and she just dropped to the floor and died immediately. The doctors thought she had diabetes and didn’t know about it.

That is pretty harsh Just happened recently then... would never have guessed.

My older sister took her own life at the age of 19. It is really such a waste of a life, she was 19 1/2 and had many things going for her, but she just thought that her life was useless. She was even very slim too and pretty. Was voted class valedictorian for her high school prom. Very intelligent too. I know when we were growing up, mom and dad fought so much. Too much I feel. I think this affected my older sister. When she went off to UVic to university for two years, then after the second year she had moved back to the family house to stay for the summer, and manage the College Pro painting franchise for our city (Coquitlam), and maybe she felt stuck in the house in an unhappy environment. There was some aspect of religion as well involved, she was being judged by fundamentalists who she let make her feel not good enough, eventhough she had a wonderful heart and spirit, but was living the life of a regular university student living on campus. So we think it was a combination of the two factors. What a waste of a life. She had won writing contests in the Greater vancouver area at the age of 15 & 16, was practically a straight A student in high school and university, had lots of friends ( but apparently in her last note she claims she had no one to talk to really)...

just weird ya know?

that morning when she took off to do what she did, she had been feeling down the weekend before (for the 3 days previous to her doing what she did) and that morning mom drove me to school, and I actually asked my mom "casey wouldn't kill herself would she?" and mom said "oh no she would never"... a few hours later according to the time line, was when she drove off from the driveway to where she was going..

sorry to talk about it and ramble on and on.

[wannabethintoo]

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Sorry to hear about your sister Diva. Suicide has to be the hardest thing to take for the people left behind.

[divaindubai]

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Yeah I've heard that too as well wannabe.

It was difficult for my younger sister too , she ended up wanting to copy my older sister, and so we were tied up with saving her for a few years afterwards.

I tried my hardest to just concentrate on my studies, but instead got involved in a bad marriage to a bad guy, I thikn as a run away from the problems.

I'm h appy that you found your love of your life ( i remember you saying that from a previous post weeks ago), after all the turmoil that you have been through.

I am also happily married to, to my best friend and my soul mate. I finally feel after all these years that now I'm at peace. I know that I gained most of this weight from being so unhappy during my previous marriage, and pregnancies, but now it is time to take it off! Also feel blessed because my current husband loves me for me, and he would also like me smaller too, he knows its unhealthy for me.

[wannabethintoo]

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Hardships in life will either break you or make you stronger. I was lucky that it made me stronger.

Yes, I did find a great man after my first marriage and I am also happy and at peace now. I have a wonderfull child and my goal is to give her the childhood that I never had...and then some.

[divaindubai]

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That's the best way to look at it! I think you will also feel healed too more and more as you see your daughter growing up the kind of life that you should have had...