Why does this bother me?

[Heidi3]

Re: Why does this bother me?

OMG I so love this lil buddy
"Christopher Walken says that his crazy hair grows right out of his brain. Mine too. And, I think yours, too!"

[Heidi3]

Re: Why does this bother me?

one nice thing about having hair like this is you never have to worry about it being messy

[Lady_Hawke]

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If she touches your hair again - turn around look her right in the eyes, and ask her if she'd like to give you the 20 dollars now or would she like to leave it on your desk before the end of the day. She should look at you like WTF and you tell her, with a sweet smile of course, that that is what you charge for people to touch your hair.
If she starts giving you unwanted advice - say you had no idea she went to beauty college and ask her why she doesn't have her own shop.
We love your hair as it is - on a wonderfully special lady! YOU!

[cmcole]

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Makes me think perhaps she sells XYZ product?
Or else, she's just a busy body, and really should be at her work, rather than messing about with your hair, uninvited.

[Coop2004]

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My two cents worth.

My ethnic background is entirely Italian. Up until I was two years old, I had deep blue eyes (mother has brown eyes and father has hazel eyes) and my hair was strawberry blonde and curly (it's still curly, but now brown - mother's hair is dark brown and straight, fathers hair, which is now gray, was black and is curly).

When I was in high school, the trend was long, STRAIGHT hair. Part of me wanted straight hair, but part of me was rebellious and I was glad that I had curly hair.

Just remember, if you're not able to dry your hair, it will at least have some shape.

[jcapulet]

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What a B that woman was to say what she did about your hair. But remember...when someone puts another person down, it makes them feel "superior". After all, they must be "supererior" if they are in a position to say soemthing derogatory to someone else. She has a self-confidence problem...it has nothing to do with your hair.

If she does it again, give her a sickly sweet smile and say "well isn't that precious?"...then turn around and continue whatever you were doing. She'll be dumbfounded and won't do it again because it will make her feel stupid.

[Esther]

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I think you should recommend a couple of good books to her. How about 'Manners for Morons' by Ima Jerk...

[Heidi3]

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I think you should recommend a couple of good books to her. How about 'Manners for Morons' by Ima Jerk...

ROFLMAO!!!!! THANKS ESTHER (THAT IS ONE OF MY MIDDLE NAMES BTW ESTHER )... I WILL REMEMBER THAT!!! I WORK WITH HER THIS WEEK!!!!

and just wait after two weeks off doing a remodel of two rooms in this house my hair is looking like dreadlocks now and I will be very proud of my disaray

[kkat55]

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You poor thing! How rude of that woman to say that to you. It would have hurt my feelings and sometimes I'm so dumbfounded I don't know what to say.

Yes, I agree with some other posters that she is either jealous of you and/or has a superiority complex where she thinks she knows it all.

It would be different if you were asking for suggestions or advice, but to just walk up to you is just so inconsiderate.

Several ideas come to mind...one would be to say that my husband and I love it just the way it is -- I'm not changing a thing. Another is to say, "How rude" and turn around and ignore her...and then a part of me to say something like, "That is not very nice and hurts my feelings."

Years ago my MIL said some rude things to me and now I wish I would have said some things back to her to stop her in her tracks.

But, I've also heard that if you retaliate, then that makes you no better than them -- and if they make you angry, then they are controlling your emotions and know how to push your buttons.

So, this is one to think about on how to respond.

(With my DH I've learned to watch what I say in anger/pain because it is hard to take back things said in the heat of the moment that hurt, which may not always be the actual way you feel.)

BTW, you may have already thought of how you will handle it next time...what are your thoughts?

[Brook]

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Some people are just asshats. No rhyme or reason for it.

I'm sorry she said what she did to you, but I think you handled the situation with more grace and decorum than I'd have probably mustered. Good for you.

"Wow! You must have gotten those pants on sale, huh? Too bad they don't fit you properly. Maybe next time they'll have a bigger size for you so you don't bulge out the top quite like that."

But then, I'm snarky like that. LOL

I think you're beautiful and *I* like your hair. Forget her. I'd rather have curly, wild hair than be an asshat. Again, maybe that's just me.

~Brook

[Heidi3]

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you know what ..it is true about there being wonderful people in the world... thanks so much for your words Brook and K you guys are doll babies .... OOOOXXXX

funny how somethings just hit you wrong sometimes huh?

[Heidi3]

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asshat huh ..I may have to copy that one

[texwife&mom]

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I would pull out the "How sweet"-- It is a line my in laws use constantly. You will have to work on your delivery --It must be said in a perfectly practiced Southern accent (coated in charm)with just a miniscual hint of sarcasm. She will spend the rest of the day pondering your sincerity.