Advice, please.

[Lady_Hawke]

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[QUOTE=stephbob] It breaks my heart to think back to the last time I saw him, leaving him at the airport, and I literally had to tear myself away to get on the plane. I just can't believe that's the last time I'll ever hug him, kiss him, have him as mine.
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I cried after reading that.

You'll get through this, we're here with you. I hope today is a little better for you. How are you doing? Have you been able to keep anything down yet?

[stephbob]

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Well, I have, but I'll get burned to the ground for admitting it on here lol. I had a glucose drink this morning. I couldn't keep water down even, I'd take a sip and up it would come again. And I remember my mum giving me this drink when I was little and severly dehydrated, and I always kept it down. So far, so good. I have outrageous heartburn but I haven't been sick.

I just can't believe how much this has affected me. Since last Thursday, I've gone from 148 lbs to 136 lbs, I've lost 4.5 inches and my size 6 jeans were too tight, now they're too loose. Excuse me if I'm repeating myself, I still can't think straight, lol.

I know once I get myself sorted, and I start eating again, I'll get right on track and I'll gain a little before I start losing again. My mum's taking me to the gym once I start eating again so that we can get out of the house, and do something together.

I just feel so down about everything right now.

[not2late]

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Hah, so much for time. The girl he says he had met, but wasnt interested in, has already posted pictures on her myspace of the two of them together on Saturday. And he is hugging her. And commenting on her profile about kissing her, and how cute she is.

And this doesn't hurt me. *shakes head* I don't even care anymore.

Honey, consider yourself very fortunate you got away when you did!

[presidentholmes]

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Steph, we're all here for you and are thinking about you.
When there's a break-up, with one person instigating it, it's like a bereavement, so allow yourself time to be sad and all the rest of it, you'll come out the other side just fine.
I've said it before and I'll say it again, you're a great person and look fantastic.
There are guys out there who would give anything to be the lucky guy that has you as a partner.
x

[presidentholmes]

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Hey Steph,
I clicked on something accidentally and found your blog!
I'll keep my eye on it and you.
x

[jcapulet]

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Tommy, you and me will go sort him out.

Can I help, presidentholmes and Tommy?

Didn't wait long did he, to start dating again?

[presidentholmes]

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No he didn't and that's why it's a stinker.
He doesn't even have the ba**s to say that there was someone else.
I can't stand cowards.

[jcapulet]

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Steph,

I am so sorry to hear what's happened. Let me tell you a story.

In 1999 to 2000 I dated a guy, who I later found out was a committment-phobe. He didn't treat me like a princess, but nevertheless I felt strongly for him. I knew I had to break up with him, but I didn't think I could do it. But I had made myself a promise, after my first serious relationship, to never ever let a guy treat me badly. I dumped him. We got back together sorta, then I dumped him again.

I couldn't stop crying for 2 weeks. My life seemed pointless because I always imagined my free time being with him. After that 2 weeks, I thought to myself...I had a life before I met this guy. I had myself, my unique hobbies and my own interests. However, at that point, I believed 100% that I would never meet anyone or date again. I just didn't think anyone would want me.

Back to my own interests, I went to playing some computer games I loved. One of them, I decided to try the online version. A month after I dumped Bozo, I met my future husband online. He's loved me from the start, and treats me like a princess. We were married in 2003.

So, remember, you have your own life. If he comes crawling back to you, tell him to get lost...because no matter how much you love him, you deserver better. It's time to move forward and leave him behind. Right now, you're still in shock and heartbroken, so it's hard to see that your life will change.

The way I see it is, you'll be available when the REAL Prince Charming looks your way.

Hang in there girl.

[stephbob]

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Keep an eye on my blog, although I have to admit, I vent a LOT in there, lol.

As for Luis and the other girl, in all fairness, he DID tell me about her. Our relationship was already over, and he told me so that I didnt find out from someone else, and I'm thankful for that.

However, it doesnt look like it was meant to be. It's Wendesday, and she's already stopped talking to him (Thats what you get for dating teenagers, I guess!) He and his friends made a joke to her about how the two of them would make cute kids, and she got up and left, saying that he rushed everything too much. Maybe they'll sort it out, I dont know. But he ended up calling me twice tonight to talk to me. And at the end of the second call, he told me he'd call me tomorrow to talk more. My sister heard the phone call (I had him on speakerphone as I was driving) and she agreed with me that there was a tone of regret in his voice. We may be wrong, but now I have the added 'stress' of thinking of what I'll say to him if he does expect me to jump right back to him.

I also think that he saw a blog entry I made (on another site, not Live Journal) about these 2 guys asking me out today. One was a very good friend in college, who I basically stopped being friends with when I started going out with Luis because Luis was uneasy with us being friends. The other guy is someone I am friends with right now. I knew he liked me, and it looks like he's jumped at the chance to ask me out. I think that he's realizing how upsetting it is to see me with someone else. Well, to think of me with someone else, at least.

But the reasons he broke up with me still stand, so getting back together won't make a difference.

[presidentholmes]

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Go out and have fun.
Probably too early for a date but it may pick up your spirits to go to the pics or summit.
Shoot, me and Tommy will take you out too!

[Lady_Hawke]

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Is he calling you to talk about this other girl? or what happened between the two of you?
If its about the other girl - tell him he'll have to handle it on his own that you are dealing with the heartache he caused you. then if you feel like a quick jab you can laugh and say pay backs are a MF aren't they.

I think you should go out and enjoy yourself - nothing wrong with going out and having some laughs and fun to take your mind off your pain.

[stephbob]

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He called me to check I was ok, because he found out that I was taken into hospital today. But I asked him how he was doing, and what was going on with him and this girl, and he told me.

[Lady_Hawke]

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wow that was actually very nice of him to call to check up on you.
are you ok?

[Atkid]

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Did you have a spell from not eating enough that made you head to the hospital? Hope all is okay. You said earlier your mum would take you to the gym, were you able to do that. Keep busy is the best thing to do. Hugs Steph!

[bjs1976]

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(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))) Steph.. I am thinking about you-- Hope all is well soon.