Why are some people mean?

[jcapulet]

I will never understand it...sometimes it's because of rudeness, sometimes snobbery, other times it's from who knows what. I just spoke with someone today who has symptoms of all of the above.

In the next cubicle over, I heard a coworker talking about my hairdresser who moved, and so I popped my head around the corner and asked about it. I asked if she knew where [name] went, and got a rock-faced "Yes."

Oooookay.

Followed up with "Where'd she go?" Another stone-faced reply to answer my question, and only my question. Just like the previous reply. Lately, she's been a witch to me and I don't know why because I've never done anything unkind to her.

I know I'm an oddball, but at least I try to be friendly to others rather than acting like a snob.

Okay, end of rambling. It just really gets on my nerves how some people can be like that. I just can't understand what people get out of being mean to others.

[Miss Phode]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Want me to kick her a$$?

[dreamof145]

Re: Why are some people mean?

I think they feel it makes them look better than the others to mistreat people. If they only knew that it makes them look small and stupid. Just as a smile can brighten someone's day, an insult or rude remark can hurt over and over in our mind.

[cleochatra]

Re: Why are some people mean?

People tend to be mean because they signed up for the "God pooped in my Malt-O-Meal" club. When someone flips you some lip, flip some back! Say, "Yeah. I was just wondering where she went. It's obvious you have a major HAIR up your butt you need styled."

Ca-ching! Score one for the cute, mousy brunette in cube numbah twooooo!

[jcapulet]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Want me to kick her a$$?

Yes, especially if you can bring that little boston terrier to do some ankle chewing (or at least, pee on her leg )

[jcapulet]

Re: Why are some people mean?

I think they feel it makes them look better than the others to mistreat people. If they only knew that it makes them look small and stupid. Just as a smile can brighten someone's day, an insult or rude remark can hurt over and over in our mind.

Thanks Becky, I think what you say is so true. It doesn't make anyone look good at all to be mean...it just makes them look like a bi-otch! There are so many nice people, I should think more about them when someone is rude like that.

[ladyinred]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Hey Lisa! This is the eternal question for which there is no answer. I come up against gratuitous meanness weekly, it seems. I just try to shrug it off as best as possible and tell myself that they must be having some kind of sad, unhappy life if they have to take out their anger on innocent bystanders.

Could it have anything to do with the fact that you are (a) cute and (b) getting thinner by the day? Some people resent other people doing well and taking control of their lives. Perhaps when you were "the dumpy fat chick" she felt superior and now she has to find another way to feel better about herself?

[jcapulet]

Re: Why are some people mean?

People tend to be mean because they signed up for the "God pooped in my Malt-O-Meal" club. When someone flips you some lip, flip some back! Say, "Yeah. I was just wondering where she went. It's obvious you have a major HAIR up your butt you need styled."

Ca-ching! Score one for the cute, mousy brunette in cube numbah twooooo!

ROTFLMAO!!!! Cleo you always make me laugh

[jcapulet]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Hey Lisa! This is the eternal question for which there is no answer. I come up against gratuitous meanness weekly, it seems. I just try to shrug it off as best as possible and tell myself that they must be having some kind of sad, unhappy life if they have to take out their anger on innocent bystanders.

Could it have anything to do with the fact that you are (a) cute and (b) getting thinner by the day? Some people resent other people doing well and taking control of their lives. Perhaps when you were "the dumpy fat chick" she felt superior and now she has to find another way to feel better about herself?

Hi LIR! Thanks for your thoughts

I agree, if someone didn't have crap days everyday, I'm guessing they'd be a lot nicer-to everyone, not just their select group of pals. I worry sometimes that because I'm a shy/nervous person that it just makes me an easy target. I'm also very reserved and don't show it if I get mad...some may interpret that as someone who's easy to be rude to.

To me, it takes a lot less energy to smile and be friendly. It makes me feel better about myself too!

[cleochatra]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Since we're just talking hypotheticals here, and because you're really too nice to do these things...

Leave a large twig in her chair. When she calls out from her satancubeofdoom who left it, you could answer, while typing or looking busy from your adoracube, "Oh looook! That must be the stick that finally fell out of your butt. Congratulations on that."

It's Halloween. We're all about the fun, here.

[jcapulet]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Since we're just talking hypotheticals here, and because you're really too nice to do these things...

Leave a large twig in her chair. When she calls out from her satancubeofdoom who left it, you could answer, while typing or looking busy from your adoracube, "Oh looook! That must be the stick that finally fell out of your butt. Congratulations on that."

It's Halloween. We're all about the fun, here.

LMAO!! I am going to be giggling all day at that thought Can you imagine someone's jaw dropping at that comment?

[2big4mysize]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Just smile at her and kill her with kindness. if you stoop to her level of meanness then you are giving her power over you.
Obviously her mommy forgot to teach her the "if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all.' rule

[13_jane]

Re: Why are some people mean?

lisa, give me her home telephone number and i'll call her bright and early every morning for you - especially since I'm what, 5-6 hours ahead of you - that will make her soo happy!! hehe

try to take no notice of her - from what I've read of your posts, I think you're great!! and I can tell everyone else on here does too!

have a nice halloween
jane x

[boonie stomper]

Re: Why are some people mean?

I dunno, maybe I have low self esteem or something, but if had happened to me, I'd have wondered how I'd offended - and in this case it would have been "I was rude to have been eavesdropping and butting in on a conversation uninvited which I had no business overhearing in the first place"

[cleochatra]

Re: Why are some people mean?

Boonie-- I don't think you'd should have to feel that way, though. Just because the UN relief peace keeping task force drop-ships crates of Pamprin on a coworker's cube every couple weeks doesn't give them the right to be obnoxious and verbally abusive to you.

If she was speaking loudly enough for everyone to hear her, she obviously wanted an audience. Sucks to be her that she *gasp* shares a hairdresser. He's not like Jose Eberr of anything.

Heck, maybe Crabella Devil uses a Flowbee and is afraid her secret will be out now that someone can bust her fabrication!

Dun dun duuuunnnnnnnnn!