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I am horrified, just got the horrible news, we just lost daddy a little under two years ago and now this. has anyone had or known someone who survived late breast cancer? Please help me understand what is happening here.
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I am so sorry.. Yes.. It truly depends on what stage its in.. My husbands cousin was in stage 1 and she is doing great.. But then there was someone at church that has it bad..
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Thanks Sandy. If it is late is there NO chance of survival even with the removal of the breast? I have been BINGE eating ever since I heard this newsComment
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Re: My mother was just diagnosed with Breast Cancer
Hiya Pipsqueak...
So sorry to hear your news.
Cancer effects everyone in many different ways. My mother has had breast cancer twice (she had lumpectomys, radio & chemo) and ovarian cancer once. Non were related to each other. She has been clear for many years now which of course is excellent!
Is it an agressive form of cancer that your mum has? These days it often stopped in it's tracks with early treatment. Problems can begin when cancers has metastisized ('secondary mets' ie spread through lymph glands and other cells) even then all is not lost. Things can still be done.
It's a very individual thing and really the best people to advise would be her GP or consultant. There are also breast care nurses who work with the family, advising them every step of the way. Best thing to do would be to get together with your mum and the professionals.
I hope all turns out well for you and yours, be thinking of you.
Cathy
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Originally posted by pipsqueak
I would never say there is NO Chance for survival... always Pray for the best.. Its hard..I have lost 2 parents to cancer..so I know how scared you are... Binge eating isn't going to take care of the problem...and is only going to make you feel worse..
Spend as much time as you can with your mom... Make every moment count..
Mrs. Edwards...the one who's husband is running for President who has cancer said something on Oprah one day...that has truly stuck with me.. She said I am LIVING until I Die.. We all will die one day so lets spend our time living life to the fullest...
Hang in there...Comment
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Hey Pipsqueak....sorry about your mom's diagnosis. I have a few friends who've had breast cancer and all of them are now fine, a few years after treatment. You need to stay strong right now...don't lose control of your own life, your mom needs your support right now and you need to be focused. Dig deep, find that inner strength...it's there! Keep posting so we know how you are. Big hugs to you.sigpic
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Originally posted by WheresMeFeet
Hi cathy this is what they said she has (infiltrating ducting carcinma) and they recommend full removal? Do you know this one? I am glad to hear your mother is a cancer surviror kudos to her.
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Hon, that is my frustration, I cant spend time with here as I live clear across the globe and she lives in mid western USAOriginally posted by SandyL2002
this is most of my immediate frustrations.
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Thank you all so very much, this gives me courage. Some how I lost 500gms over night due to stress? Even tho I binge ate, I still went down but I know it is just stress. When you say your friends are fine years after, how long does it take someone to feel well again? An in 6 months, will she lose her hair, she must have the breast removed but will she also lose the hair and does it really make everybody that sick?Originally posted by MorningGloryComment
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Pipsqueak, first let me tell you I understand how scared you are, and how frustrated you feel not being able to be there. I lived (still do) far away from my Mother when she was diagnosed with bc in 1998. That was almost ten years ago. She had a mastectomy, and is still living well into her 80's. She's sharp as ever, and in good health. Cancer is no longer the death sentence it used to be. They have made so many advancements, and will continue to. There's lots of hope now a days.
Just be there with her when you can, call often, write, email. I'm sure she knows how much you care. As you get more knowledge from her doctors you will feel more empowered. My heart goes out to you, I remember being as scared as you are right now. Try to hang tough. It will get better.
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My friends are at 1.5 years past, 3 years past and 6 years past. One of them didn't have chemo, just radiation and seems to be on top of the world at the moment! Looks better than she ever has. (the 3yr past one) She did get some yucky burns from the radiation, but that healed. She also had a bit of a scare with what she thought was another lump, but it turned out to be scar tissue.Originally posted by pipsqueak
The one who is 1.5 years past is great...she had chemo, lost her hair, and yes, was quite sick with the chemo, but I seem to recall that sickness is in the day or so after the chemo treatment. The treatments were for 6 weeks I believe.
The one who is 6 years past had both chemo and radiation. She lost her hair, and was pretty sick with the chemo, but for her it was more the tiredness that got to her. Interestingly enough, the one who is 6 years past declined to take the follow-up drugs! She said that at the time it was experimental (or just really new) and they didn't know enough about it for her to feel comfortable being a guinea pig.
Losing hair is devastating, but both my friends said that in comparison to what could happen, they didn't care. My mom didn't have breast cancer, she had bowel cancer, and had chemo, but they told her she wouldn't lose her hair and she didn't.
There's so much to the treatment, that you're best to talk to her doctor if that's possible (could you by phone?), and take a lot of notes! Please be careful of what you may read on the internet...I'd be wary unless it was a government site. I don't know how it works where you are, but in Canada the government controls our medical plan, so they do have tons of info on health stuff.
I hope this helps you some...I know your head is all over the place right now.sigpicComment
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Hiya,
From what I know..that is one of the most common types of breast cancer.
Full removal is recommend as it can easily spread at this stage. Treatment needs to be quite aggressive to get at all the cells etc before they pass on through lymph nodes or the blood stream. That's all I know really.
I think think a good thing for you to do do would be to contact some place like cancer research (that's here in the UK, but they will have equivalents round the world). They should be able to fill you in on lots of facts.
Please remember though that knowledge can be dangerous! Times like this you want to know all and understand all about it....but just picking up on a tiny bit of wrong information could stress you out even more.
It must be extra difficult with you being apart from your mum. Like it was said before...keep in close contact with her as much as possible. Let her know you are there for her when she wants talk about it and also that you'll understand when she doesn't want to talk about it!
Stay strong
Cathy
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[QUOTE=WheresMeFeet] Please remember though that knowledge can be dangerous! Times like this you want to know all and understand all about it....but just picking up on a tiny bit of wrong information could stress you out even more. /QUOTE]
This is so true! Good point.sigpicComment
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Hi Pip,
My best friend of 33 years was diagnosed with Breast cancer when she was 30 years old (we're both 39 now). By the time we found out she had to have her whole left breast removed in less than 42 hours. She is alive and well. She's really doing GREAT!!! And the reconstruction is wonderful. It really looks good. I know it's scary
We were terrified. 9 years later she is better than ever. More and more people are cancer survivors now. Don't lose hope sweetie...it will carry you far. All of you are in my thoughts and prayers 
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Thank you very much. I am and never will be able to get reports from her doctors. One particular sister who was never there for my mother or father and never treated them well is not brain washing my mother who is weak, confused and vulnerable. She does not care about my mothers health but her own selfishness about what if mommy dies. So she has convinced mommy to go out to Seattle, a strange city, no friends, no other family, not her doctors etc. Mommy jumped on a plane yesterday without a word to her other children. I was shocked about this. This one sister lives in isolation fromt he rest of the family. WE DONT KNOW HER PHONE NUMBER or address, so all we know is mom is somewhere in the state of Washington. How SAD, this is driving me mad becaue I love my mother and was ready to jump on aplane and fly across the atlantic to be with her. But this one wicked sister has somehow convinced my mother to be there insteaed. She is pushing in her head that the only good doctors are in Seattle and that the rest of the USA will kill her. I am horrified to think that this may be the end of her? I mean, we have no contact, no way to make communication, this leaves me and the rest of my siblings in a very awful situation. I tried to tell mommy do not go out there. That this one sister will not even let us speak to her EVEN if we had her phone number to call, so why go? for some reason the shock of the cancer has messed with moms head adn she is not in her right mind. As for getting data from her doctor. HA that wont be happening as long as this sister is in CONTROL...we may as well say goodbye to mommy now. I am so hurt I couldnt sleep, I vomited all my dinner and cried, tossed and turned. I feel like the whole world has a dark black could over it and I cant see any light. It is one thing is this sister meant WELL, but she doesnt. she is only interested in having mommy there to pacify her own self. Mommy knows that going to that houshold is a one way ticket to ****. I dont understand how she let this happen?Originally posted by MickkeyPipsqueak, first let me tell you I understand how scared you are, and how frustrated you feel not being able to be there. I lived (still do) far away from my Mother when she was diagnosed with bc in 1998. That was almost ten years ago. She had a mastectomy, and is still living well into her 80's. She's sharp as ever, and in good health. Cancer is no longer the death sentence it used to be. They have made so many advancements, and will continue to. There's lots of hope now a days.
Just be there with her when you can, call often, write, email. I'm sure she knows how much you care. As you get more knowledge from her doctors you will feel more empowered. My heart goes out to you, I remember being as scared as you are right now. Try to hang tough. It will get better.
Maybe in some days she will come to reality and realize NOBODY can call and she is only with taht one, maybe she will wisen up? God knows I hope so. Flying to Oklahoma is far cheaper and faster than trying to fly somewhere in god knows where in seattle.
Mom must have the breast removed as there are three tumors. so she will also need psychological help, this one sister will FORBID IT. Basically, mommy will be in her control for her to decide, and when someone is that sick, they may not even realize what they are doing and how much control of their own life and health they are doing.
Help, I feel like I am losing it.Comment
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