They told my little sister she will die

[Oh.2.B.Fit]

Re: They told my little sister she will die

Hi,
I'm so so sorry about your sister Jacqueline. ALL of you are in my thoughts and prayers sweetie

[squeak]

Re: They told my little sister she will die

Hi,
I'm so so sorry about your sister Jacqueline. ALL of you are in my thoughts and prayers sweetie

Thank you so much, I honestly feel the care in this forum. God bless you all, you have given me a place to come and confide in and not be alone.

[squeak]

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I am so sorry you are dealing with this.. Does she have life insurance? Was she separated from him?

I know you don't want to hear this..but the ONLY way I got through my dad's death (5 years ago) was because I knew he wasn't hurting anymore.. A miracle can always happen...but... When I get to feeling bad that he didn't survive.. I thought..What kind of life would he have had for a few years.. In and out of treatment.. My dad knew he had Cancer for 3 weeks before he died.. I am so thankful he isn't sick anymore. Those 3 weeks were the hardest thing I have ever gone through...

Are you able to go see your sister or does she live to far away?

No sweety, I cant go and see her, I live clear across the atlantic and she is in the the USA. No, they were not divoriced or separated. She came back to the USA when daddy got his heart attack in July 2005 and she never left. She remained back for several months to help mommy as I could have stayed 30 days. Late that year I believe she was not feeling well and went in for tests.Nothing happened. And at the end of January she develped septic blockage and was taken by ambulance to the hospital where they discovered to her horror that she had had stage 4 colon cancer which had metastized very badly. From then until now she has been in and out of hospitals, taking chemo, having colostomy, then she went into remission but was still too weak and sick to travel. Her husband said she has a man that is why she didnt come back to him. She never had a man she was diagnosed terminal last march and given 3 months to live. But she somehow managed to stay it out until now. She is a fighter, she refuses to succumd to death and is fighting I hear. In the mean time this pig wont make contact, and has told the police he wants no contact with his wife or her family.

My intention is to mail him some photos of her lying dying in the hospital and maybe then he may beleive she is dying, only God knows. He seems a very mean man to tell you the truth.

her problem is she had not right to reverse the colostomy, by doing this, it stressed her already fragile body and brought back the cancer which came back with a vengence. the oncologist told me there are hundreds of tumors all over both intestines. She has been on Chemo the past three weeks and it didnt help. Plus she has septic blockage and they cant get all the waste out. It is truly a mess. She has left no will or nobody in charge of her affaris.

Yes, she has life insurance in this country not in the usa. So the pig will inherit it, yet he wont make funeral arrangements or even fly there to see her. What a swine he is

[guekjian]

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I am truly sorry for what is happening...but tell yourself...what goes around comes around...the pig will get his due...and your sister will stop suffering poor baby...but PLEASE take care of yourself now...no matter how sad you are, you are still here and you need to be healthy and strong...we are all here for moral support ok? Come anytime...xxx

[squeak]

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I am truly sorry for what is happening...but tell yourself...what goes around comes around...the pig will get his due...and your sister will stop suffering poor baby...but PLEASE take care of yourself now...no matter how sad you are, you are still here and you need to be healthy and strong...we are all here for moral support ok? Come anytime...xxx

Thanks so much.

The SADEST and most painful thing I have to deal with is living 30 mins from this PIG and he will not open the door, answer the phone or try out of being a human to call her.

Yesterday she was in and out of it. She was BAWLING OUT HIS NAME begging him to come see her, please I want to see you. How terribly sad that you spend your life with a man and this is how he ends up treating you in your days and hours of your death, how cruel. This is what is killing me, knowing she will die sad.

She is swelling, the IV nutrients are no longer going into her blood but in the outer skin. I have seen cancer patients on TV etc, but this is the sadest I have seen. She is dying not really from the cancer but from a COMPLETE colon blockage which is impossible to correct because she has the cancers all over and her body is too weak. IF she was strong they could save her life and buy her some time, but what is truly the cause of her dying is the blockage followed by the cancers. How tragic and sad, how truly sad. Yesterday she told my othr sister open the door I am going home and to get her clothes for her. Poor baby, she has not even accepted she is dying. She looks horrible, I thought Tammy faye baker looked bad, my little sister looks double of what tammy looked. It is almost frightening but I have to watch the pics to face the reality of what is happening.

I am trying one last time, having a girl in the other end of the country to write the PIG and send him her dying photos, now if he refuses to make contact, by God he will have his day and it wont be in heaven but ****. I tried the lawyer bit it is expensive I am still trying to see if the media will publish something to reach him or at least embarass him that he has turned his back on his dying wife. I dont know what else to do, I feel helpless and in such sorrow over this

[SandyL2002]

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I am so sorry you are having to deal with this..just know others are thinking and praying for you and your family

[Sweet Strudel]

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I am so sorry to read this about your sister and what you and your family is going through. The stress of this alone is enough, but to have to deal with that poor excuse of a husband of hers at the same time is just unbearable.

My husband passed away from cancer in 2002. We had only married in February of 2001 and shortly thereafter he found out he had cancer of the lymph nodes. Ultimately he had to be put on a feeding tube and had chemo and radiation, none of which was successful. He held on as long as he could...he couldn't speak for quite alot of his terrible ordeal. It was nearly a year of h*ll for us both...so I truly understand and feel your pain. He is in a better place now, thats what I need to remember.

I'm truly sorry your sister is in such horrible pain, but soon she will be free of that. Try to stay strong although I know how terribly difficult it is.

You and your family are in my prayers

[squeak]

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I am so sorry to read this about your sister and what you and your family is going through. The stress of this alone is enough, but to have to deal with that poor excuse of a husband of hers at the same time is just unbearable.

My husband passed away from cancer in 2002. We had only married in February of 2001 and shortly thereafter he found out he had cancer of the lymph nodes. Ultimately he had to be put on a feeding tube and had chemo and radiation, none of which was successful. He held on as long as he could...he couldn't speak for quite alot of his terrible ordeal. It was nearly a year of h*ll for us both...so I truly understand and feel your pain. He is in a better place now, thats what I need to remember.

I'm truly sorry your sister is in such horrible pain, but soon she will be free of that. Try to stay strong although I know how terribly difficult it is.

You and your family are in my prayers

Hi Strudel
my late condolences to you on your loss. Cancer is the most viscious of diseases that a human can have. I had NO clue what it was all about until it came knocking on our family's door.

Last night they got the dreaded call to hurry to the hospital, she has given up, she will die probably today, if not already. Mommy is spending the night in her room, mommy herself is stage four metastasis cancer and it must be a horror to be dealing with your own illness and watching your child suffer and die slowly this way.

I have been in turmoil for a good while, but now the turmoil is really hitting home, I have gone from depressive binge eating to NO EATING at all, nothing is staying down anymore.

My sister's face reminds me of Terri Schiavo in her last hours, its a real horror and I cant imagine what my mother and other family members are seeing as I am only seeing photos, and the reason for that is for me to share her finals moments with her so I can feel closer to her. For some reason my sister was very alert and in deep thought this week and has even contacted a lawyer and worte up a very powerful last will and left my big sister in charge of her complete esate and is full beneficiary of her personal stuff, all monies left over are to be sent to cancer research. I wished I had written a blog on my sister. She has endured courage and strength and is very much admired by me and others around her for her courage and battle with this dreadful disease. Her courage to fight this terrible illness is really something that should be noted by those who are around her presently. She has never cried or was sad, even now in her final hours she is not sad. I think she is suffering so badly that she wants to go now. She took a turn for the worst as she wrote her will, she was in sound mind when she did it. then the following morning she just went downhill like no one had seen before, she asked not to be put on a ventilator in her will as well, WE HAVE TO RESPECT THAT. So basically she has succumed to death and is waiting on that final call, the one from that monster she is married to. It must be a horror for my family who are there. I got to tell her goodbye not in those words, but I got to forgive her for something that happened many decades ago that I held her responsible for, this makes me feel that she leaves with some peace in her heart at least from me because I have blamed her for it for decades, last night I released her and forgiven her for it, my other sister said she tried to smile, she cant talk much but mumur yes ok, thanks.

I just called the neighbor of her husband to tell her PLEASE tell him to at least call her for one minute, just so she can hear his voice for the last time, while she can barely utter a couple words, she can hear and that they can put the phone to her ear like they did me, so he can say one word or two words to her, i cried and pleaded with the neighbor to please please for the love of God ask him to call her for one minute, just so she can have this last wish, to just speak to him, we only ask this so she can go in peace, in her wake sleep state she only calls out to him, my God this is truly heart breaking. Imagine he wont even call his wife, but told the neighbor if she does not come back to him he will not speak to her,she is dying cant he comprehend this? What an A&&%%%E he is

I put this pray for my sister now as it helps me feel comforted. when I pray, I feel calm and not so much in turmoil

Prayer for the dying
Oh most merciful Jesus, lover of souls, I beseech you by the agony of you most sacred heart, and by the sorrows of your immaculate mother, wash clean in your blood the sinners of the whole world who are now in agony and will die this day. Heart of jesus who sufferd death's agony, have mercy on the dying.

The lord's prayer

Our father, who are in heaven, hallowed by thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heave, give us this day our daily brad, and for give us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into tempation, but deliver us from evil, Amen

[SandyL2002]

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I have been thinking of you and your family and was wondering what has happened...

[CareyAnne]

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Oh my goddness I am crying right now. I am so sorry Squeak, know that we're all thinking of you and praying for you and your family. *Hugs*.

[Babs]

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I'm so sorry. You are in my prayers.

[Babs]

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I'm so sorry. You are in my prayers.

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