Is it okay for me to be angry (or at least irritated)?

**Katlam** · January 18, 2006, 06:54 AM

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Go find the cake recipe in the recipe forum and give her the recipe. Tell her that if she MUST make you a cake, at least she could help you out by making one that you can sample? I've done that for parties, taken a cheesecake that I can have along so I won't be tempted. You have every right to be annoyed, just don't let it consume you. Now give your friend a way to really really show her love for you!

Kathy

**sombersusie** · January 18, 2006, 07:02 AM

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well you could always take a piece and say i can't wait to eat this later!! then while no one is looking put it in your trash, cover it with old papers/tissues etc and then tell her that was the best cake ever!!
not completely honest but at least you wouldn't have to tell about your diet??
hope your day goes ok....

**iyamamaschke** · January 18, 2006, 07:41 AM

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There is no shame in losing weight you are making a better you a healthier you and I know I have people in my life who in the past year have tried to give me chocolate cookies and cake but, I ahve always said no. It diesn't hurt feeling I just tell them I am watching what I eat and the Cake doesn't fit into the plan. Most of the time People are of with this there is the odd time it's like 1 piece won't hurt. I go on to tell them Yes it will I'll Binge and so I don't. I am sorry you are losing a friend at your work But, stay away from the cake she is your friend and she will totally understand.

**iyamamaschke** · January 18, 2006, 07:43 AM

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You could always tell them you are on a Diabetis Diet cause of a Diabetis scare now I know this isn't honest but, sometimes when I am in a restaurant I reiterate that I AM A DIABETIC so that they don't put extra sugar in it I tell them I cannot have sugar. Works like a charm.

Sarah

**wayless** · January 18, 2006, 07:50 AM

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Originally posted by iyamamaschke

There is no shame in losing weight you are making a better you a healthier you and I know I have people in my life who in the past year have tried to give me chocolate cookies and cake but, I ahve always said no. It diesn't hurt feeling I just tell them I am watching what I eat and the Cake doesn't fit into the plan. Most of the time People are of with this there is the odd time it's like 1 piece won't hurt. I go on to tell them Yes it will I'll Binge and so I don't. I am sorry you are losing a friend at your work But, stay away from the cake she is your friend and she will totally understand.

I'm not ashamed of losing weight. I'm actually quite pleased with my progress. My friends would immediately back down if I told them I was dieting, but THEN...they'd be all up in my business from now on watching everything I eat and do, and for me, that is unwelcome at this time, so I've been trying to keep my personal business PERSONAL. It's my choice when and how I let people know what I'm doing.

I won't eat the cake. That's not an option for me. I'm just resentful that this is an ongoing issue at my job, and that I have to keep fighting off this temptation. It's irritating. I'm committed to losing the weight, but I'm still vulnerable. Constantly putting sweets around me is like putting a recovering junkie in a pharmacy department. It's just not good common sense. LOL

The good (and bad) thing is that my friend who is leaving is 90% responsible for the junk food in the office...LOL I'll miss her terribly, but I'll be grateful not to have that kind of temptation around.

**Desertthorn** · January 18, 2006, 07:54 AM

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Yep its very hard to avoid good natured southern women who love to cook.

I tell folks that I really need to lose weight as my health depends on it and that I am on a special diet. They respond well.

**iyamamaschke** · January 18, 2006, 08:02 AM

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GREAT JOB sorry if my Post came out wrong didn't wanna make you upset I think you are doign a great thing and Ya you have every right to be upset and I understand you wouldn't want others to know I was the same when I started keep doing what you need to do.

Sarah

**wayless** · January 18, 2006, 08:08 AM

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Originally posted by iyamamaschke

GREAT JOB sorry if my Post came out wrong didn't wanna make you upset I think you are doign a great thing and Ya you have every right to be upset and I understand you wouldn't want others to know I was the same when I started keep doing what you need to do.

Sarah

No, you didn't do anything wrong. Dammit, I'm just frustrated at all these danggone cakes!!!! I feel like taking a bat and smashing the d*** things! LOL I'm just annoyed at the cakes...nobody else. Why'd they have to be so good?

**iyamamaschke** · January 18, 2006, 08:14 AM

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Yes I know how the frusturation goes, the same thing happened to me at my First Birthday while I was on Atkins I told everyone don't make me a damn cake cause I won't eat it what did they do bought the best damn cake ever and Kept stuffing a piece infront of me I finally told everyone I DON"T WANT THE CAKE. I have lost ... weight I don't want it. Everyone finally got the point but, I fina;;y had to get pissed off for them to get it. I felt like everyone was out to get me and sabotage my efforts.

Sarah

**Lady_Hawke** · January 18, 2006, 08:14 AM

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It sounds like you know this friend very well and know what a caring person she is and that she being southern, shows her love and caring with food. Since she does not know you have changed your life with Atkins.......she is just showing you and everyone love like she always does. I am sure if she knew, she would make you something special.

Like you said its her last day friday, and she is bringing a cake. You know this ahead of time, so maybe you could bring something you can have? Use the diabetic suggestion by Sarah or pretend you have an upset stomach and don't feel like eating......either way, whatever you choose to do or say I know that you will be able to resist the cake and be strong. You are doing an awesome job and I am proud of you!!!

As to your feelings, of course youhave the right to be upset. Thats how you feel and its ok.
Have a beautiful day!

**Mary-chan** · January 18, 2006, 08:53 AM

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I know how you feeel exactly, I dont' like telling people I'm dieting either. Even though it's completely obvious, I mean I've lost 75 pounds, not something that just kind of happens, you know, lol. I'm just a very private person by nature. If I happen to tell someone I'm on atkins they make the occasional annoying comment and it always makes me mad, so I like to keep it to myself. Or they ask me how much weight I've lost - to me that's not that different then asking my weight - it's none of their business.

You'll do great, temptations will always be around in one form or another. These cakes are just a different form. And each time you resist one of these cakes you're making yourself stronger and more able to fight temptation in the future.

**TheLoser05** · January 18, 2006, 01:42 PM

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It's alright Tracey... I don't like telling a lot of people about being on Atkins because some people think that Atkins is bad for you and i will have to here their F****in' mouths! I don't have to defend what I believe in! I am borderline diabetic... so I use that excuse a lot when I'm around other people. Only a select few friends know about my diet. The one lost 50 lbs on Atkins herself! As horrible as it seems to use that excuse without really having a serious problem with it... it will work. Either that or tell your coworkers if they start getting suspicious... that you are just trying to watch what you eat. You don't have to tell them the full reason behind it. Hope I helped a little!

<3Stephie

**softnred** · January 18, 2006, 03:39 PM

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When I first went on Atkins I didn't tell anyone for a few months, for pretty much the same reasons as you. I wanted to keep it private, and prevent people from policing what I ate (I know they mean well, but it irritates me!!), asking me a zillion questions, and lecturing me on the dangers of Atkins. After I was noticeably smaller and was firmly rooted in Atkins, I mentioned it to a few people...and even more complimented me on my weight loss and asked me how I did it.

I think it's completely okay for you to keep your personal life private until you're ready to share it. And I do think that your co-workers should accept your "no thank you" gracefully and not push it. You shouldn't have to explain why. Your decision is your decision and shouldn't be questioned. Unfortunately, a lot of people (especially those serial bakers who are always makin' stuff) aren't wired that way and want you to have some of the dish so that you can "enjoy" it.

Yes, you'll miss your friend, but just think of the cake-less days that are to come....

We're here for you!!

**LC_Dave** · January 18, 2006, 03:45 PM

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Originally posted by wayless

I'm not ashamed of losing weight. I'm actually quite pleased with my progress. My friends would immediately back down if I told them I was dieting, but THEN...they'd be all up in my business from now on watching everything I eat and do, and for me, that is unwelcome at this time, so I've been trying to keep my personal business PERSONAL. It's my choice when and how I let people know what I'm doing.

I can totally respect that. As soon as you let people know you are on a diet, they ask you about it at every free moment, every day!!

A line everyone seems to say is "Are you allowed to eat <insert food>?"
My favourite repsonse is: "I'm allowed to eat whatever I want, but I choose not to eat <insert food>!"

You have every right to be angry about the cake society pushing their wares!

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