That's ok, you should have seen me trying to work out the how and whys, lol. I read your post without looking at your name and I couldnt remember for the life of me posting that post, lol....then I looked and was like AH HAH! I'm not going mad!!! lol.
Things change for the better when we take responsibility for our own thoughts, decisions and actions.
Failure is only a fact when you give up. Everyone gets knocked down, the question is: Will you get back up?
You wouldn't worry so much about what other people thought if you realised how seldom they do.
i am sure this won't be the parting the parting shot but i had to share. jack is my biggest supporter. for those that don't know, jack is myjack on this board and he is my dh. he was running and errand yesterday and saw a writting, went back to work and googled it. then he called me and asked me to do the same and said he thought of us in this challenge when he read it. so, this is from jack to us.
In all the world,
there is no one else exactly like me -
everything that comes out of me is authentically mine,
because I alone choose it - I own everything about me - my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or to myself -
I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears -
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me - by so doing I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts -
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,
and other aspects that I do not know -
but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,
I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me -
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do,
and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me - If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turned out to be unfitting, I can discard that which I feel is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded -
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.
I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,
and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me -
I own me, and therefore I can engineer me -
I am me & I AM OKAY
by Virginia Satir
WOW Jimmie! That is a beautiful peom/reflection. I think I had seen it before, a long time ago, but I had forgotten all about it. What an eye opener and a way to start the Holiday Season. And I say start, cuz I'm correcting my actions as of today. I just madea copy of it and will share it with DH and my coworkers. As you know, they are all counselors so they're gonna love it!
That was very thoughtful of Jack. Tell him I said Merry Christmas!
36/F, 5'8 "FOOD IS MY DRUG OF CHOICE. " HW 285/SW 265/CW 178/GW 170 Next Mini Goal: 175 by Sept 16th (Isabela's BD)
Thank you, Jimmie & Myjack!
T
his is my favorite part....well, all of it is just awesome, but this part reverberates what's in my head these days about making choices to stay strong on this WOL....
Originally posted by jimmie 48
because I alone choose it - I own everything about me - my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions,
whether they be to others or to myself
This WOE has and will help all of us to be healthier and happier--we will succeed because we have chosen to make this commitment BECAUSE WE ARE WORTH IT!!!
I wish I had all day to read everyone's posts! My goodnesss what great thinkers and motivators you all are...seriously!
Jimmie...thank you for doing this challange...it's go me thinking over the past few days about where I want to go, do, be, etc. thanks for the award too
VJ....Loving this one!!!!
Originally posted by Viking Jim
My motto is then: Be who you think you really are, and I say it many times a day now...
Jimmie...thank you for doing this challange...it's go me thinking over the past few days about where I want to go, do, be, etc. thanks for the award too
Ok I dont mean to sound if I was expecting something for doing this challenge but I keep hearing mention of an award. Now I think I know what the award was but I have no clue what it is or what it means.........could someone please explain???
Suga_Britchess-Having the love of
your life break up with you and say,
"we can still be friends" is like when
your dog dies and your mom says,
"we can still keep it"
SW 314
CW 301
1st Mini 300-----met 2/1/08
2nd Mini 275
3rd Mini 250
4th Mini 225
5th Mini 200
LongTerm Goal 160
Springing Into Action Challenge
8.0/22 lbs.
585/660 mins
sunny,
it sounds as though you continue to learn lessons for your woe. maybe you can take a bit of your own selected dressing next time, just in case?
we've seen lasagna mentioned a couple times in this challenge. i wonder if the lady would be up to having you bring an eggplant version or maybe, if she's a good cook, she'd like to try her hand at it. is that something you could be in conversation with her about?
tell me more about that not eating after 7, if you wouldn't mind. how's come? is this because of our health or a preference such as not being able to sleep on a full stomach?
As always, nothing to do with the whys will have a short answer, so get comfortable. The nothing after 7 o'clock thing comes from me sitting down at the start of this venture and brainstorming what I needed to change to make this work for the rest of my life. I was in very bad physical shape on many fronts and I just didn't have it in me to care about what I ate. I was taking a lot of medications at that time, and some of them had to be taken on an empty stomach and some of them with food. In the morning, I used to choke down half a banana or a few crackers to get some food in my stomach for the 'with food' meds. I'd do the same at lunch. Then, I would still not feel like eating later in the day. Finally, I would force myself to eat something at 7 or 8 p.m., and after that I couldn't stop. I would be eating terrible foods, right up to midnight, mostly in bed. Then I would be sitting on the side of the bed half the night because of reflux. I had terrible diverticulitis at the time. Also, some of my meds had eaten the lining off most of the surface of my stomach. From the RSD, I have a problem with slow stomach emptying. I was on 160 mg of Nexium and reglan for the slow digestive problems.
I should probably add right here, I had been on Atkins a couple of years before and lost 60 pounds and felt great, but I had a bout with diverticulitis (caused by bacteria introduced during a colonoscopy) and my doctor said I had to go on a low acid, low fat, low residue/low fiber, no raw or hard to digest foods diet. About all I was permitted to eat was white bread, pasta, white potatoes without the skin, apple sauce, eggs, and bananas. As I didn't feel up to cooking anyway, I lived on white bread sandwiches (luncheon meat), crackers, boiled potatoes, pasta with a little margarine and parmesan, bananas, apple sauce and green beans once in a while. I not only gained back the 60 pounds, they brought friends.
My daughter died in August of 2004 and at that time, I weighed about 250. I had the clothes that I wore to her funeral that fit very well. My health crashed even worse at the same time, and I spent a lot of the time in the hospital and most of the rest of the time in bed at home. I was in the hospital when she went in the coma, and they let me out for the 17 days it took her to die, her funeral, and then I had to be readmitted for another two weeks. I seldom dressed, just wore a huge nightshirt, so I had no idea how much I had gaineduntil my B-I-L died the next August. His funeral was in Ohio, so I just packed the clothes I had worn when Paula died the year before. When I went to dress for visitation, I couldn't get the black suit on my body and couldn't even fit in my slip and shoes! I couldn't even force my feet in my dress shoes! I had to wear the big cloth shoes with elastic and went and bought some clothes. I should have had some hint, because for the first time in my life, I couldn't get the seat belt around me in the backseat of the brother's car that I rode with to Ohio! That was my blammo moment and when I went home, I weighed for the first time in years, and found I was at almost 300 pounds.
I knew that I had to do something. I went sort of on Atkins for about a month, and then after reading the book from cover to cover, I sat down and mapped out what it was going to take to get this weight off for life and reclaim my life. I have never been a breakfast eater and this had to change. I also needed to learn to eat only at the table, instead of in front of the computer or in bed. I remembered all the times that I ate while in front of the computer (I was Webmaster and director of more than one non-profit group) and didn't remember eating the food. I would go back for more and more, always telling myself I would pay attention to what I was eating the next time--didn't happen.
Sooo...in my plan of action/goal contract, I laid out the three meals a day, with a start time from arising to 9:00 a.m. and finishing no later than 7:00 p.m. Nothing at all to eat after 7:00 p.m. I also had to eat all food at the table and a lot of other rules about eating slowly, putting my cutlery down between bites and really enjoying my food. It took me almost a month to start eating breakfast that early, but soon, I realized by stopping eating at 7 pm, it gave my stomach a chance to empty before bed and I was hungry in the morning! Who'da thunk it???
Soon, I noticed that my asthma was gone along with a lot of my digestive problems (allergy to wheat). I no longer needed any Nexium and I stopped the reglan as well, though I still have a slow digestive system. No reflux at all! I also lost the desire to mindlessly eat all night long. On the rare occasions that I have had to eat late, I still feel like I can't stop, so I just kept the rule. For me, it's a good rule.
Now, I have to get busy. I am just now getting over all the over-doing from yesterday.
Sunny!
People who say it can't be done, should not interrupt those doing it.
"Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal; While others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous efforts than ever before." ~~Herodotus
Ok I dont mean to sound if I was expecting something for doing this challenge but I keep hearing mention of an award. Now I think I know what the award was but I have no clue what it is or what it means.........could someone please explain???
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