I Am Worth It Challenge II

[LooseShoes]

Re: assignment day three

December 19
Looking Ahead - Commitment In Action
Homework/Board Work
1. The first focus of making a plan is to identify things that will jeopardize your commitment to yourself. This could be a hospital stay, vacation, relatives that know nothing about Atkins or are ill informed, or simple a restaurant. List at least 2 in each category:
Events: Holidays (Christmas for example); emotional anniversaries
Places: home when I'm alone; --really don't have problems anywhere else
People: I've been single long enough and I'm old enough that I have no problem being led astray by others. It's my decision and my body, not theirs.


2. Write out alternative actions that will help you stay committed when you are faced with these temptations.
Christmas-1. make alternative, legal recipes 2 we generally have a jigsaw puzzle going and it's hard to eat doing that 3. Socialize with other instead of eating 4. Send illegal food home with others 5. Go for a walk with family members
Emotional anniversaries--1. stay away from chocolate 2. have legal snacks 3. exercise, exercise, exercise. 4. If I slip, don't stay stuck on stupid, get right back on track.
Places-home when I'm alone 1. Call my mom, she always wants to talk 2. exercise 3. don't have illegal food in the house 4. have legal snacks ready 5. do something productive

3. Put your plan into action. Practice what you will say to people you know might try to get you off plan. Say it till you feel comfortable saying, being self assured and confident I explain to the people I care about that this woe makes me feel really good and is making me healthier. They care about me, so they don't try to pick a fight over it. People I don't particularly care about their opinion--I just smile and say that particular food doesn't agree with me. No sense fighting about it, and like I said above, it's my body and my health and really not their business. Results speak for themselves--I've lost 60 pounds.

[learning2loveme]

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i had to think a minute on this. my mind is trying to reference some of the many things dr. atkins wrote about. he mentioned several time how we were meant to eat and what has come about. the increase of sugar/flour products and the rise in weight, literally, and diabetes and heart disease.
God did intend for us to eat good food. meats, berries, fruits, nuts, grains and so on. it's man perversion of foods that got us in this mess. look at what man did with sugar and flour. when i was a kid i could have probably named every cereal in the cereal isle at the store. try that now... it can't be done. and then stick those blasted gigantic candy bars at the check out. shame shame

that was deep thinking for me on a late night.

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now i am chatting with mg.
mg, sorry, i should have gone to bed. just one more, k?

In the UK there are lots less sugary cereals. What I meant by good food was...pasta, bread, fruit and even a little ice cream once in a great while. Not now whilst in induction, but later on it's not going to cause me to fall completely off if I have one of those things. That's all I meant. As heavy as I am, I will be on induction for a long time and this WOE is for life and God knows I'm not perfect, that's all. And I'm not afriad to admit out loud that I know I'm not perfect.

[learning2loveme]

Re: I Am Worth It Challenge II

December 19
Looking Ahead - Commitment In Action
Homework/Board Work

1. The first focus of making a plan is to identify things that will jeopardize your commitment to yourself. This could be a hospital stay, vacation, relatives that know nothing about Atkins or are ill informed, or simple a restaurant. List at least 2 in each category:
Events: PMS, Special Occasions, Resturant visits
Places: Anywhere with food
People: friends, family, my hubby

2. Write out alternative actions that will help you stay committed when you are faced with these temptations.
When I am faced with temptation at home I will go to the fridge and read my list of goals/rewards and the list of reasons I want to lose weight. Elsewhere I will take a second and feel myself in my skin and realise how I got where I am at, both good and bad. I will opt for the best choices at all times. At all times I will need to call upon my higher power to help me control my addiction.


3. Put your plan into action. Practice what you will say to people you know might try to get you off plan. Say it till you feel comfortable saying, being self assured and confident
People don't understand being on a particular way of eating, esp in my hubbys family as they are all naturally thin. Christmas is going to be a bit of a challenge but I have decided to eat a meal here in my home before I go for christmas dinner so that I am not tempted to eat things off limits. I plan on telling people I have an allergy to things with flour and sugar in, that should deal with most things.

[kate58]

Re: I Am Worth It Challenge II

1. The first focus of making a plan is to identify things that will jeopardize your commitment to yourself. This could be a hospital stay, vacation, relatives that know nothing about Atkins or are ill informed, or simple a restaurant. List at least 2 in each category:

Events: 1. Holidays, like Christmas. 2. Parties at any time, where there is little legal to eat.
Places: 1. Restaurants. 2. In the car on long journeys (I used to munch my way to my destination!).
People: 1. The low-fat devotees, who cannot understand any other way of eating. 2. People who say that an occasional or planned cheat doesn't matter.

2. Write out alternative actions that will help you stay committed when you are faced with these temptations.

Holidays, like Christmas: Advance planning - knowing what is coming and planning how to eat. Making legal treats so that illegal ones are less tempting and there is no feeling of deprivation.

Parties: If I know the hosts well, offering to bring some food and making it legal food. If I don't know them well enough to do that, eating beforehand and then claiming a little bit of a tummy upset.

Restaurants: Getting hold of a menu in advance and planning what to eat. Choosing restaurants well. If neither is possible, being upfront in asking about ingredients in dishes or asking for substitutions. Not feeling obliged to eat everything on a plate.

Car Journeys: Bringing legal snacks, eating well before traveling so that I am not hungry on the road.

Low-fat afficionados: Keeping quiet and eating right. NOT trying to convince them about this WOE or letting myself get dragged into an arguement. Their way of eating suits them, mine suits me. None of us are 'right' or 'wrong', just doing what we feel is best for ourselves. Realising that actually I have MUCH more in common with them than with people who ate like I did before, which was in away that showed no practical respnsibility for the healthiness of what I ate.

People who say planning cheats is ok: Cheating suggests that you are depriving yourself as the norm, and are planning something that is better, more enjoyable and more fun.

But eating very well is an everyday things on this WOE, the food is great and losing weight and feeling healthy is extremely enjoyable. so what would a 'cheat' be? Seems like it would be to eat badly and/or eat something that has harmed me in the past and without which my life is infinitely better. Why would I want to do that?

Certainly I see no reason whatsoever that I would want to plan to do such a thing.

3. Put your plan into action. Practice what you will say to people you know might try to get you off plan. Say it till you feel comfortable saying, being self assured and confident

To those who offer illegal foods: "Thank you but I am not hungry"
To those put out by uneaten food on a plate: "It was lovely, thank you, and I enjoyed it very much but I have had enough now".
In Restaurants: "Can you replace the potato/rice with extra vegetables please?"
To Atkins critics: "I'm interested in what you have to say, I'll certainly read more about it. If you like I can suggest some articles or books you might enjoy reading"

[ValidRouge]

Re: I Am Worth It Challenge II

Originally Posted by inhisgrip

• I guess sub-consciously I'm saying to myself that I'm not worth it. That it doesn't matter if I lie to myself. I rationalize with myself and promise myself I'll make up for it another day. But of course I never do.

Liz--I do this too. That's one of the reasons that ADBB is so good for me. I use ADBB to get around not being committed to myself. If I come here and state my intentions to OTHERS, then I feel obligated to follow through. If I don't follow through, I have to come here and "fess up" or make it right. Most of the time this happens in my journal, but that is still semi-private. When I'm really really needing strength, I'll post in one of the public forums that's out there for all the world to see (like yesterday in the STAC). This is one of the little games I play to get around myself. I am my own biggest obstacle LOL

4. If I slip, don't stay stuck on stupid, get right back on track.

i *love* this!!!

[MorningGlory]

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Of course Im my mind Ill be saying "IN YOUR FACE"..LOL

Haha..I can totally relate to this! Best of luck with your travel plans and staying on track. It sounds challenging for sure, but there may be some good stuff in amongst all that starch!

[MorningGlory]

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Originally Posted by inhisgrip

• I guess sub-consciously I'm saying to myself that I'm not worth it. That it doesn't matter if I lie to myself. I rationalize with myself and promise myself I'll make up for it another day. But of course I never do.

Liz--I do this too. That's one of the reasons that ADBB is so good for me. I use ADBB to get around not being committed to myself. If I come here and state my intentions to OTHERS, then I feel obligated to follow through. If I don't follow through, I have to come here and "fess up" or make it right. Most of the time this happens in my journal, but that is still semi-private. When I'm really really needing strength, I'll post in one of the public forums that's out there for all the world to see (like yesterday in the STAC). This is one of the little games I play to get around myself. I am my own biggest obstacle LOL

Hi Joy! That's so true about stating your intentions to others, and then feeling obligated to follow through. Funny in a sad way that it doesn't matter as much when we just talk to ourselves about good intentions. Another reason this place is so important.
MG

[MorningGlory]

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*The 2nd being the 90 days I commited myself to treatment for, if you read my introduction I mentioned briefly that I use to use drugs, well the truth is I used and abused drugs for 10 years or so and getting clean and staying clean has been a commitment that I am still keeping every day of my life. Its not always been easy but it is an accomplishment that I am proud of and I never joke myself or let my guard down thinking it doesnt have a hold on me anymore because I know it can creep up when I am at my weakest.
*The most recent commitments are ongoing too, losing the extra weight and getting healthy by quitting smoking are proving to be the hardest and Im sure will be the most rewarding.

You've been through a lot! Reading this opened my eyes about commitment...good for you for persevering and thinking enough about yourself to commit to huge lifestyle changes. Very inspiring.

[sillygirl]

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sunny's post #220

first, let me say that you are incredible. you have just blown me away with that post.

i am just about speechless and will only say this. i don't want to ever see another post by anyone where they are saying they can't do anything because of this or that or whatever. if i do, i am sending them directly to that post.

Here! here! Sunny, I read your posts as well, you are quite the amazing woman, someone to admire!

[sillygirl]

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Right now my mental is block is I can't seem to get past of not having something sweet. But I have read some of these post and relaize tht the 14 days is for 14 days and not my whole life. But I know that until I get that down going on is not an option.

You have a wonderful attitude! I wanted to tell you about sweets though. I too am a sweet person. In the beginning of this weight loss adventure I would keep a little bowl of some cream cheese, teeny splash of cream, splenda and sugar free vanilla in the fridge so I could take a little bite whenever I needed a sweet fix.

In theory, we should lose our sweet cravings entirely as we get into ketosis. In the meantime, go check out Linda's web site for induction friendly treats.
http://www.genaw.com/lowcarb/index.html

[hrgillespie]

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Wow .......... I'm learning a lot by reading a long with you all ....... about you as people and about commitment. I have to say I was on the edge about Christmas and cheating and what I was going to do, especially since my weight just won't budge these days, but reading here each day has strengthened my resolve and I know the only person I am cheating is myself. I dreamed last night about it, about cheating and I gained like 10 lbs and was so depressed. I woke up got on here and started reading and Just decide NO WAY!!!!!! it's so not worth it. Thank-you all forbeing open and sharing like you do it helps more then you know!!!!!!

[willlose40]

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• Reference a time when you were completely committed to a project, cause or life event. Relate to the group what struggles you had and what you did to stay the course. How did you feel when you met the obligation?

The umph-teen time I had done Atkins, I was like an unstoppable freight train I would prepare meals exercise in the morning and at night. I met my goal by losing 37lbs in 1 1/2 months I was so happy with my reach! The one problem I did have at the time was the man I lived with was always so negative always name calling but I was so determined to show him that he was wrong and that I could accomplish my goal!

• Have you ever over committed? How did this affect your challenges, woe, etc.-I have over committed this I feel made me overwhelmed, I am hard on myself and when I do not do something I have set out to do I tend to be even more negative towards myself! Then it is like if I eat something I am not suppose to then I would wait one hour and then get on the tredmill and start running like a nut! I have stopped this habit!

Virtually everyone has a problem now and then with slow losses, no losses or even gains. We are human. Dr. Atkins knew this but he also used the word “occasionally” in reference to eating off plan, many times in the DANDR. “Occasionally” should never be confused with every other day or be the scapegoat come Friday. Keeping this in mind, answer this question (as it applies):

1. If you are committed, why do you find yourself continually battling cravings, falling off the wagon, giving in and giving up?


Weakness for me, or I have this outlook of "Well if no one like how fat I am then they should not look at me!" I cannot beleive I think like this, or I make excuses up to myself, but until I noticed how wonderful I felt when I did lose my weight before I was so happy, energetic and I got my oldest daughter motivated to lose weight with me-now that was the most wonderful gift in itself. I also feel it is in my mind, the other night while I was changing into my pj's I wanted chocolate so bad!! I reverted to telling myself maybe I was just born to be a "FAT GIRL!"-My mindset is bad!!!

[sillygirl]

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Jimmie, did I thank you for the christmas puzzle? You made a difficult one this time, I think! I didn't know where else to post this, so I chose here. You guys can print it and work on it while you have some nice alone time reflecting on how very worth it you are!

http://www.atkinsdietbulletinboard.c...484#post813484

[daione]

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Sillygirl,

Thank you, I actually went last night and got some cream cheese and heavy cream. I am going to make some of that tonight along with some sugar free jello. I also go the L-gutomillo pills that dr. A recomend. I don't know what happened yesterday, but something triggered my sweet tooth so bad. I spent an hour in the store looking for something induction friendly. I saw dr. A bars ... but I was scarred to get them because I was afraid that I would not like them and then they had a high carb count but I don't think it was net carbs. So I am not too sure about counting net vs actual carbs yet. So I did not get them. But after walking around like an alcoholic looking for a drink but knowing I should not touch the stuff ... i did slip off and got some chips and a reese cups. Your right .. it made me sick.

What made me so upset is that chicken breast it turned out yuck. So that i kind of upset me because that is all I had to eat. It is the individual frozen ... I was trying to save money, but that is not the way. Even after it is cooked it has a horrible tast. I am going to have to spend a couple of dollars and get the fresh chicken. I also was trying not to eat so many chicken wings, because my doctor told me not to eat the skin. Well that is near impossible, so i was not going to eat them at all. Well I can't do that right now so I am going back and get them chicken wings. I think once this weight comes all the way off the cholesterol will come down. But I did get some apple pecctin and some other vitamins too help with the cholestoral. It will work out though ... I am confident. I am doing better too day. I am keeping the coffee right now. please bear with me. But if what you say is true once in full ketosis the cravings will go ... then it is all good. I am still losing. I am at 221 now and I was going to where my blue suit today ... I couldnt because it was just too big. I had to change clothes. I couldn't even put a belt on it ... and guess what the belt is too big. HOW COOL IS THAT!

Thanks sillygirl.

[ValidRouge]

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Daione, get the chicken wings and eat the skin!!! Your doctor is giving you Low Fat advice, because that is what he/she has been taught. The fat on the skin of the chicken wings will help quell your cravings, it will make you feel full, and it will help get you into ketosis. Chicken wings are a gift!