I Cheated!

[Sheshy]

Re: I Cheated!

Thanks Weighless!

[Bren]

Re: I Cheated!

Thanks Weighless! Your a doll! And a talented one at that.

[anjelina]

Re: I Cheated!

hello all,

You know I love this strict no excuses!

Cheating is an aweful aproach to something sooo important. You don't just cheat with food. There are baggages attached to cheating on your diet. You also cheat your self esteem, your success, your future and your concentration.

With a community as open and honest as this one (I hope we are all honest), cheating must not happen.

Have you ever dieted with a friend or relative and had them cheat...just a little? Mabey even "a taste"? Do you remember what happens? You feel ok to do it too. Just a bite, just one taste, just one day...

So then you blow it. Cheating is contagous, like yawning. Just don't cheat and become someone elses excuse, or your own for that matter.

There are so many people here who need a strong, consistant, reliable, example to follow. Help yourself and everyone else here and stop the cheating.

[Outback Jess]

Re: I Cheated!

Well, I have read all of this and am so impressed. I have seen alot of fall down, get back up, and then they fall right back down, that bugs me, and I can see it's just going to happen again. Man, I mean business here. I mean to get my life together. Freak! I work hard every day, planning, plotting, protecting every step I have made. I don't take it for granted that anyone else is watching out for my a**, that's my job, I got it where it is today. I don't feel I have been around long enough, to police anyone, but I can certainly take my cues from you successful people. I have no trouble calling the cops! You guys rock.

[Momtofour]

Re: I Cheated!

What a great post!

[dotsamantha]

Re: I Cheated!

This thread is a big part of why I'm here.

[IrishIrish]

Re: I Cheated!

Gosh! Does this mean I don't have to be all "touchy-feely" and politically correct and say things like, "there, there, don't you worry" when people post about their latest cheat! Do you mean I can tell people to "Read the book" and quit trying to do it their way instead of the Atkins way?

::feeling all tingly inside:: knowing that we can preserve and protect the Atkins way!

[Kent]

Re: I Cheated!

No Jo you need to give up your little book waving avatar. It is scaring people with its evil eyes and rightness of message.

[Heidi3]

Re: I Cheated!

I am going to go on a hiatus until this blows over

personally as I said I am hard core but I am also PC and have a tender side ......majority rules ....so you guys enjoy yourself and I will be back when this is a kinder gentler place again

[jimmie 48]

Re: I Cheated!

i think we can be and should be soft on people but i also think we need to get to the business at hand when we see people post day after day and month after month that they cheat. we are not talking the once in a blue moon, i ate something i shouldn't have kind of posts. we're talking continual binging, weekend falls every weekend. members do this and then complain they don't have a good weigh in or the cravings won't disappear. sometimes a harder stance has to be taken. that doesn't mean we don't care. we certainly do or we wouldn't be here. we want all the members to be able to post the before and afters and "one year later i'm still at goal" lines in their siggies but if they continue to cheat and continue to be obsessive about starting induction over and over and over, they are never going to be able to have that pleasure. and that, after all, is why we are here.

[Heidi3]

Re: I Cheated!

I understand the underlying motive here but honestly...I feel differently ...very differently about approach I came here for support and understanding ..and yes to find guidlines to help and yes if I am wrong it is fine to step up and correct me ..but if someone keeps falling off the wagon you really thing the "Cheat Police" is the answer??? I think people find their way ....and if we keep being right about this and good examples of success then maybe that is the best motivator ...

I am as I said hard core with Atkins I mean really look at me..but the word Cheating and the cheat police is not my style that is for sure....honest answers to questions ..yes you get them from me as you know ..every single time ..but lambasting for "cheating" absolutely not ...I do not believe in that word ..and think it is self defeating to use it ....that said ..again I will shut up on this subject and let you guys use what you think is best ..because after all I have and could be quite wrong about this ...I just know that removing it from my vocabulary ..for myself ..helped me stop battering myself if I made a mistake in eating ...it helped understand the difference between eating wonderful healthy food and eating food that caused me to feel miserable and gain weight ...it was not all or nothing for me anyway it was a process of learning a new lifestyle ..and that takes time, learning, support and patience ...

something I also had to learn ....

I do not think boot camp style is for everyone is all ....and certianly did not work for me again I could be wrong and am ...quite often ...I can only speak for myself ...and will now ....

[Heidi3]

Re: I Cheated!

I have to say one thing ..be careful because when I first started here there was a particular mod who carried a gun and scared the crapp out of me ....I thought if this is the type of folks who run this board I dont want to be here ...but I hung in and did what I thought was right ..found kinder gentler people to help me along and support me ....

so what if I am PC??? ..btw ...that is not a bad word you guys!!!!

[Bren]

Re: I Cheated!

Heidi, I can see where you are coming from, I honestly can. But, I can not in good faith post to a thread and say.......... It is ok etc. etc. Cause it is not ok. And how the heck are we helping ANYONE when we say it is! Sure, pick yourself up, get back on your feet and continue on. BUT.. stop and firgure out HOW and WHY! Confessing you cheated is one thing, but not learning from it and not figuring out how to stop it is to me turning a blind eye.
That is not why I stay here. I stay here to help people. I stay because DAMMIT I care. I find it extremely upsetting to see it happening over and over again. So, why not try and help by getting to the route of the cause. I do not see where that is lambasting. I see it as a form of tough love. I see it as caring enough to want to help.
Sure, maybe the "cheat police" is not going to reach everyone. BUT, if it helps ONE person then it was a good thing. That is what makes this board such a wonderful place... there are enough people who answer enough posts in enough different ways to reach SOMEBODY!
I spent 40 years of my life "cheating" myself. It breaks my heart to see someone making the same mistakes I did. So, this is the way I thought to reach out. I know full well it will irk some, but if it reaches someone and makes them rethink what they are doing then WONDERFUL!
Certain things work for certain people! That is the beauty of this place.
Like I said before..............anyone can block me or anyone else they would rather not listen to on this board! No worries.
I am here because I care, and I care enough to go out on a limb and do what worked for me and countless others here. And yes, I know it does not work for everyone.
Your style of posting is different then mine and you reach people in a different manner!
Thats all! We are all different, all of us. What works for some, does!
When I came here (long ago) The approach was Soft on People and Hard on Ideas.
And, I think we need to get back to that approach.

[Heidi3]

Re: I Cheated!

ok ...I just had to say what I was feeling ..all done now

[Heidi3]

Re: I Cheated!

I still feel the same btw ..but I am done talking about it...