I Cheated!

[Heidi3]

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argh I have to stop reading this thread now

[Bren]

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Guess I'll go back to reading my book and keeping my Atkins approach to myself. After all, without my own experiences here, I'd probably repeat my mistakes and not lost the weight I have. And selfishly, that is more important to me than tiptoing through the posts.

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NO WAY JO!!!! I have seen you post and I have watched you help COUNTLESS people over the years. You got what it takes! You walk the walk and what better person to listen to for advise!
When I started here I took advice based on who had succeeded. Huuummm......... I thought that made sense? I STILL look to and at all the successful people here. I look at your signature Jo and think..........WOW WOW WOW, she obviously knows something!!!! When I have a question I run right to Megs or 2big! When I am not right on track I read a post from Dream! You are one of those people here that EVERYBODY can learn from! And over the years you have made me think!! That is a good thing.
We need variety, we need people with experience and different ways of answering a post!

You get your butt back here and you stay!! Please? Pretty please.

Don't make me tackle you again!

[Heidi3]

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Jo I think I am absolutely the only one who disagrees here so you are pretty darn safe in your desire to see this be a tougher place....you guys go for it ...I hope what you want works...it just would not and still not does with me ..but since this really is NOT about me it is about what is best fo the board I will really ..this time ..back off ...

I need a break anyway ...I lost 50lbs and have kept it off for 18 months now ...I am not sure if that matters in the big picture but it does to me ..I feel my battle with weight is ongoing and I will have to be aware of things I am sure for the rest of my life...not become complacent.. ...

I want to say there was nothing "watered down" about how I did this plan ..it was hard as helll!!! I worked my asss off learning how to eat a new way..how to prepare wonderful food that fit this plan and I have tried very hard to be supportive and encourage people to follow through on their goals ...

but I find people pointing fingers and power trips a little offensive and to be honest that is the way it was in the past when people were hard core...and I have found the more mellow atmosphere around here much more pleasant...

but I am one again and realize that is not the majority ...

so really now I am gong to shut up...YES... I have said this several times and just keep talking ...but this has really kind of bugged me as you can see ....

I just need to find something else to do is all

[Bren]

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Hey Heidi!

You rock, and you touch many people around here. MANY MANY PEOPLE!
We are just all different and use many different approaches! So, please do not walk away or stop! I know for a fact you have reached people that others have not.
I respect how you feel.............................. and will tackle you if I have too!

AND.....you shall get a "wet nuggy" with that tackle!

[2big4mysize]

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Heide don't take this the wrong way please, but you are the most hardcore person I have ever seen. when somebody posts about frankenfood junk you are there telling them like it is. eat the good tasting stuff we can have on Atkins and enjoy the wide variety of good healthy foods out there. Whenever somebody posts about food restrictions there you are telling them about the great foods out there the tastes and flavors they CAN have. When they are [posting about fixing a high carb goodie you are there discribing the wonderful low carb things you can make instead. Whenever I see one of those posts the first thing I think of is IS Hedie3 online and seeing this? I check and if you have replied I just move on cause you have given them the do Atkins by the book answer just in different words.

[Twilight]

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Just a comment on something Megs said:

I have watched my mom, my aunt, and an uncle do this diet. My mom and my aunt gave up and failed, but my uncle lost 35 pounds, and looks great. The difference between my uncle and the other two: discipline. He's a football coach, he knows all about it.

But when he cheated, he didn't do what my mom did and say "Well the day is ruined anyway, might as well eat junk." No, he jumped right back on that wagon and didn't wait at a bus stop or whatever for the next one. And so I think that saying "Well the day is ruined anyway" is positivelythe lamest excuse ever. I think that excuse should be banned and anyone who uses it should get an extra scolding.

[sallyseachange]

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Can't say I've read this entire thread, so forgive me if I'm off track or repeating what others have already said:

My thoughts are that it's better to show the way by setting a good example and giving constructive support rather than 'policeing'.
The term 'cheat police' makes me a little jittery.
By all means we shouldn't be wishy washy and lovey dovey when people make mistakes or fall off the wagon...but to me, the approach should always be gently constructive... never slamming.
Having said that... I can't say I've seen much slamming going on around here. Generally everyone helps others in a wonderfully positive way. ADBB and you all rock!

[Heidi3]

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Heide don't take this the wrong way please, but you are the most hardcore person I have ever seen. when somebody posts about frankenfood junk you are there telling them like it is. eat the good tasting stuff we can have on Atkins and enjoy the wide variety of good healthy foods out there. Whenever somebody posts about food restrictions there you are telling them about the great foods out there the tastes and flavors they CAN have. When they are [posting about fixing a high carb goodie you are there discribing the wonderful low carb things you can make instead. Whenever I see one of those posts the first thing I think of is IS Hedie3 online and seeing this? I check and if you have replied I just move on cause you have given them the do Atkins by the book answer just in different words.

and I never shut up ...I know this ..I am hard core I said that already ..but not about cheating and not about falling off the wagon!!!! I am hard core about eating the best food you can, avoiding crapp and moving forward, finding a new life for yourself instead of berating yourself for something you have done already!!!! Cheating is a negative word and I for one have tried for years to get rid of the negativity ....

my belief is that if you make your food and exercise fun, interesting and satisfying you will find that there is no sense of deprivation .....
putting crap in our bodies make us fat...taking the crap out of the diet makes us thin...eating good food is pleasurable ....

this really is not an all or nothing imho it is layers upon layers of a constantly growing individual ....

ok really now please shut me up ok?????

[Sheshy]

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I hope no one feels I've berated them by asking them questions about going off plan.

I feel this thread was started to develop a new/old "strategy" and to suggest a change in the way we respond to a confessing ADBB'r - from "ahhhh, it's okay that you fell off the wagon and ate processed crap for 10 days" to "hey, what was different today or what happened today that convinced you to go off plan?".

I don't call that policing or being particulary hard on anyone or implying a "all or not nothing" attitude...these are the questions that needs to be asked and answered, then possibly it can be a learning experience.

I wonder if it's the little cop icon and the word cheat that are causing your upset, or is it someones actions?

[Heidi3]

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I hope no one feels I've berated them by asking them questions about going off plan.

I feel this thread was started to develop a new/old "strategy" and to suggest a change in the way we respond to a confessing ADBB'r - from "ahhhh, it's okay that you fell off the wagon and ate processed crap for 10 days" to "hey, what was different today or what happened today that convinced you to go off plan?".

I don't call that policing or being particulary hard on anyone or implying a "all or not nothing" attitude...these are the questions that needs to be asked and answered, then possibly it can be a learning experience.

I wonder if it's the little cop icon and the word cheat that are causing your upset, or is it someones actions?

I think you hit the nail on the head it is that little cop thing...OMG ..it does make me nuts!!! I hate that thing!!!!.... that is so funny you would say that!!!! you read me well I guess!!! all the other stuff is really how I feel but the cop thing put me over the edge .....go figure

[sallyseachange]

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I feel this thread was started to develop a new/old "strategy" and to suggest a change in the way we respond to a confessing ADBB'r - from "ahhhh, it's okay that you fell off the wagon and ate processed crap for 10 days" to "hey, what was different today or what happened today that convinced you to go off plan?".

Actually, I think that I've always seen the latter response to confessing ADBB'rs ("hey, what was different today....") rather than anyone saying that falling off the wagon was OK. But you're right Sheshy, that second response is the right approach.

[Outback Jess]

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I like the way ALL OF you work things out, and I know why that is, because you have "relationship" you have all been writing and reading each other for some time and or seasons. The key to correction, soft or tough, is relationship bringing cheat police, or loving acceptance moves best thru relationship. It is the greatest challenge in the information age to build relationships in cyberspace. It takes a lot of time and postings and alot of listening and writing. Time, not something as easy a lot of phone calls and INFLECTION in the voice to set the tone (we set tone via CAPS)...
People need to know they are KNOWN, and cared about, before you can come in harshly. Some people like me, just need to know you are paying attention to me. You care about me, and you are really trying to help. Some people just want that bottom line, conflict is no problem with them...But we all respect when this comes thru relationships. YOu all just proved it by hashing this thing out over 3 days, and many responces. You have agreed to agree to disagree, because of the value in these relationships you have with each other and many onlookers. You all are quite a community, one that is so hard to establish incyperspace... My hats off to you.

[Bren]

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Hey Jess,

Everyone here is worth it! It is EVERYONE that participates in this board that makes it the great place it is. The many personalities are the greatest part! I love it! I have learned to see things in so many different ways and that is a good thing. We are all working for the same cause, just all different in our own ways.
I always say I have gained so much more then I have lost!

AND.........your article in STAC this morning is terrific! I have read it twice and I think it should be a stickie.

[boonie stomper]

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..............PSSST!!!! Remember Me (you know how I fit into the force if you read my last post here)Hi... no one should be getting bent out of shape for getting slapped. No matter how many strict cheat police are on this board, I'm sure there will still be a full spectrum of "slip up" (AKA Cheat) responses that people posting, as well as just reading posts, will run across. I saw one earlier today, that person obviously is unaware (so far) of this thread and all its implications. It was in the Halloween 10 lb challenge, and was your run-of-the-mill "cheating doesn't matter" variety.

So start recruiting some deputies, and lets see some slappin' action!

[AllieCat0817]

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You all are so funny. This thread RAWKS